How many times have you said to yourself, I’m not happy with my life. I wish I could change,” but then you never followed through? Well guess what? You can change. The power is within you. You just have to take up the challenge. women and change
Think of change like a caterpillar’s metamorphosis into a butterfly. It may be a struggle in the beginning, but in the end there is beauty in that change.
Look, I get it: change can be a scary thing. But it can also open the door to so much more in our lives. Some people embrace change as it occurs in their lives. Then there are those who vehemently resist it because a) they have trepidations on moving out of their comfort zone, b) they believe ‘if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it,’ c) the loss of control, d) the uncertainty of what lies ahead, or e) fear. This list isn’t exhaustive, and there may be more, deeper reasons involved. However, while it is okay to be apprehensive to change, we should refrain from turning our back on it completely because we don’t know what that change holds in store for us.
Change is all around us. It is life’s moving target and it affects each one of us throughout our lives. Relationships end, jobs change, loved ones pass away… Change exists in good forms and not so good forms. That, however, shouldn’t stop us from leaning in to change and using it to our advantage.
A Few Benefits of Change women and change
…it can lead to growth. Although “change” and “growth” are sometimes used interchangeably, they aren’t the same. However, when change occurs, it can lead to growth – a gradual shift to a better state.
…it constitutes a new beginning. It is a parting with the old and transitioning to an alternative.
…it builds endurance. When change is difficult and you come out on the other side—maybe a little worse for wear but you endured—that makes you a survivor. Revel in that strength and fortitude.
…it shakes up the routine. Imagine yourself doing the exact same thing in the exact same way at the exact same time every day of your life: eating the same dinner, wearing the same clothes, performing the same tasks. Forgive me while I yawn. Monotony is so bland, so vanilla. Without change, life would be one big snoozefest.
Women and Change — What You Do to Embrace It
As a friend of mine said almost twenty years ago, “Change is challenging, but change is good.” Change is inevitable. It’s also vital to our existence. Without it, life would be a stagnant existence filled with the same old same old. Change represents growth, evolution and progress. Who doesn’t want or need that in their life?
Accept and Adapt.women and change
Once you’ve gotten over the initial shock and internal resistance, be accepting of change and the value it can add to your life. Change involves adjustment. Once you accept that life is defined by impermanence and that change is inescapable, it may help you to better deal with the notion of change. Accept and adjust. Then, view that change for what it is: a stepping stone to something different. That difference doesn’t always mean better; it simply means that it is another avenue upon which to traverse in life. Remember, although you may not feel like it at the time, you can adjust to changes if you vanquish the notion that life and your role in it is meant to be static.
Take it One Step at a Time.
Who says you must rush right into change like a charging bull? Why overwhelm yourself with the process? Try to focus on what is happening right now. Staying in the moment may help keep you grounded. Then, once you’ve embraced the tools to help you deal with the present…
Look at the Big Picture.
While you may be inclined to resist change, it sometimes helps to look ahead to what that change will mean. In the long-run, will you be better off without that toxic person in your life? Can effecting change now lead to a better position in the future? Look past the present and peek ahead in the future – the big picture is waiting for you.
If change is overwhelming, turn to others for help.
There will be times in your life when the thought of change or the process itself will feel as if it’s too much to handle. The sensation of the walls closing in on you will be overpowering, compelling you to give up. Don’t. Now is the time to reach out to those in your trusted circle and beseech them for support. Adjusting to change can be stressful and difficult. Don’t overlook your built-in support system – spouse, family members, friends, church, etc. If you don’t have to go it alone, don’t.
Women and change. Change can be difficult, but accepting change is much easier than fighting it. Think of change as a harbinger of endless possibilities. As you step into the unknown with an open mind, a metamorphosis occurs . . . one that could possibly move you to a better place. Change. It’s inevitable. Come to terms with it and, in the end, embrace it.
How do you adapt to change in your life?