Do you believe in yourself? Do others have more faith in your abilities than you have in yourself? Where does your validation come from?
It’s time for you to be authenticated from the inside out. Give yourself the stamp of approval . . . endorse yourself.
When you receive validation from others, it serves as a powerful boost. To your self-esteem. To your ego. To your sense of self-worth. And there’s not much wrong with that. That external support means that others find value in you, they believe in you and they have faith in you.
Now imagine how phenomenal life can be when you feel and believe these same things about yourself.
That inner awareness comes from trusting yourself, trusting in your abilities and trusting that you are as good as you think you can be. Without that inner belief, you’ll continue to seek outside validation. Be honest about your passions and know your strengths. These two traits can be the backbone of your successes in life.
What About Your Validation?
We all, to an extent, care what others think of us. Does she think I’m smart? Do they think I’m attractive? Does he believe I have value? Our self-worth is often tied to what others think. For some, this can be damaging as their happiness is dependent upon the perception of others. If that validation, or approval, isn’t forthcoming, they assume that people disapprove of them.
That’s a heavy burden to take on based on whether or not you perceive someone ‘approves’ of you. Especially when an assumption is involved.
When we learn to accept that which is amazing, phenomenal or great about ourselves, we can strip away the need for approval, or validation, from external sources. It’s time to talk to ourselves like we talk with our friends; to tell ourselves how wonderful we are; to tell ourselves that we are worthy; to tell ourselves that we did a good job. If we can be free with our accolades to others, we should be able to praise ourselves.
How to Validate Yourself
We can be our own worst critics. This criticism can manifest itself in many ways, one of which is when we judge ourselves.
First, take note of how much you judge yourself. Self-judgment, which is based on emotion not logic, is so automated that we often don’t realize we’re doing it. Be aware and hone in on that judgment and, when possible, instead of judging, why not try valuing yourself?
Next, realize and understand that your decisions are yours. Place more trust in your inner knowledge as opposed to allowing others to be your ‘voice of reason’ or ‘authority’ for you. In turn, you will begin to feel your inner power.
Finally, you need to love and nurture yourself. Take care of yourself as you would a child. Allow your inner self to know that she is of value, that she is of worth, that she is loved.
As you begin to feel better about yourself, your need for outside validation will diminish.
How do you validate yourself?